Do you want to be freed from bondage and pain, and suffering? Do you want to get past that hurdle that you can’t seem to get past….then ask somebody to forgive you! That may sound a little strange, but it is so essential. Many times we let the hurt of the past poison our lives. We don’t want to give up the right to be angry….because that is power my friend…because you are angry and EVERYONE should immediately bow to you and do things “your” way. When you get to that point, pat yourself on the back and say congratulations…to yourself that is…because you will probably have alienated anybody that you have “lorded” that power and anger over….and anybody that you “cared” about. Because all you do when you get to that point is make “yourself” miserable. I will explain after you consider Hebrews 12:14-15 (NIV) – Make every effort to live in peace with everyone and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.
I learned this lesson courtesy of my best friend…the one that I didn’t want to learn it from. You see, I was saddened and angry because things hadn’t come out the way that “I” planned it. Nobody would listen to me, and I was right!!! But by taking that position…I was in a bad mood any time I was around those that I “cared” about. Because the issue isn’t about who is right, the issue is about what attitude you take. In my case the issue is irrelevant…my attitude was relevant. You see, God told me that I am not in the “fixing” business…that is not my job…that is HIS job. I am not the one to execute God’s plan…that is HIS job.
My job is to use the approach in Philippians 4:6-7 (NIV) – Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
And that means that God will answer your request. The answer may be yes, no, wait, or I have a better plan…but He will answer.
In the meantime…get off of your high horse…apologize, and ask for forgiveness from those who in your mind…may not deserve it…but that is only because you are so busy being right that you probably don’t realize how much pain you are causing. My “friend” gave me this searing comment, “You say that you are happy as a Christian? You are miserable every time you are around us…who would want to be a part of that?” Ouch…as a guy who wants to tell people how wonderful and joyful the life of those who follow Christ is…well I guess that I didn’t do so well. But after asking for forgiveness for my bitter attitude, God has opened up my eyes to a whole new world, because He has reminded me that “fixing things” is his job. My job is to follow, and watch Him work! And to pray without ceasing about those things that I can’t control…which is everything.
Hard to do? Yep…on your own power. But after you bring it to the Lord in fervent prayer…it is easier. And after you have done it…IT IS LIBERATING!!! Try it and let me know how it works out.
Until the next time….I reside in God’s grace and peace…and I am so happy that I do. Dan